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Musings of an Awakening Spirit

Stories, poetry & general musings of Rebecca Haywood, a modern-day Shaman with a penchant for bringing the divine into the human experience.

Getting Off the Brand-Wagon

Too beautiful, too sexy, too strong— these are just a few of the “too too’s” that the wounded world asks us to dim down. And for every “too too”, there is a “not enough”. It is this “not enough” that lives in the broken heart of humanity, causing the judge to point her finger and the accused to accept her scarlet letter.

This image got a “too too”. “It’s too intimidating to use on your web site. It will scare people away. Besides, it’s not on brand. You are soft, Rebecca.”

I am soft. This is true. I bend; I flow; I accept; I love; I surrender. But this is not all that I am. We are all things.

And there is strength in surrender, like the Carrizo Cane that bends in the wind, and there is vision—a receptivity that reaches into another and becomes an impenetrable vessel of love in an absolute, unbreaking embrace.

I am not afraid to love. Does that make me soft? Vulnerable? Weak?

No. It makes me the strongest force there is.

Strength isn’t about defiance; it is acceptance. It doesn’t push against the wind. That’s what causes the reed to break. It moves with it. It breathes it in and becomes the wind.

That’s the truth, and it was evident in the majority of my photos: a fearless love that looked straight into the camera without flinching. But… they weren’t “on brand”.

Women are branded everyday and, let’s be honest, much more so than men. And, let’s dare to be even more real; it is our sisters that are, more often than not, holding the iron.

So before you mark another, or allow one to etch itself into your skin, consider where that need is coming from.

What wounds are you holding that you need to hold against a fellow sister? What boxes are you cramming yourself into so that you make more room for them? What power are you dimming down, and in the name of what?

Let us honor the full spectrum of our being as women, as people. Narrowing ourselves does not allow for more light in others; it makes less light as a whole. Though surrender breeds strength, it becomes the wind to which it bows.

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